This article came through my inbox and I thought it important enough to share.
7 Things You Must Give to Others if You Want to Achieve Success
- by Chris Widener
A major part of the process
of achieving success and living the kind of life that you dream of is to give.
Many people think that to get what you want you have to take it. There is a
universal truth though that the true path to get what you want is to give. When
you give, you get. What you sow, you shall reap. If this is true, then what is
it we must give? I'll show you the way...
1. Give Others Your Honesty.
The world we live in has a
simple rule that most follow: Lie when you have to. Unfortunately, this may
make some people wealthy but it make us humans poor. To achieve success is to
become wealthy not only in money, but in character. To be successful, truly
successful, is to be able to attain your goals and keep your character at the
same time!
"Honesty is the most
single most important factor having a direct bearing on the final success of an
individual, corporation, or product." Ed McMahon
Mister McMahon is right,
though others will tell you otherwise. Some people will say, "You have to
bend the truth to get ahead." Not true. Some of the most successful people
who have ever lived were honest people.
How about you? Are you honest
in all things? The problem with little lies is they become big ones. Lies spin
out of control. You get caught in one lie and you lie to get out of it etc.
In all things and at all
times, give others your honesty.
2. Give Others Your Respect.
Most of the time we give
people respect based on what they have done or what they have accomplished. We
gauge whether or not they are "worthy" of it based on what we know of
what they have achieved or who they know or are related to.
But I believe we should have
a higher standard: We respect people not for what they have done or for who
they are related to or for what they can do for us. Instead, we respect people
for simply being.
What would happen in our
world, in our company, and yes, even in our families if we started with respect
for everyone else rather than making them earn it? I think we would see that
most people would live up to the respect that we give them!
3. Give Others Your Vulnerability.
We are taught to "be
strong." And yes, we should be strong. But we have also embraced something
that I think keeps us from having the kind of life that we long for. It is an
idea that keeps us from experiencing the kind of relationships that would bring
deep meaning to us. It is the idea of vulnerability.
"But Chris, make
yourself vulnerable and people will step all over you!" It is true that
this will happen. But I have also seen that most people will be drawn to you.
They will help you. They will open up to you. You see, we are all broken people
inside. We all have secrets. Yet everyone plays the poser. When one let's down
their veil, others soon follow - and we all win.
4. Give Others Your Care.
Too many people are running
around this old earth not caring about others. The days of "Look Out for
Number One" and "Winning Through Intimidation" are over! Let's
bring about a new day when we can care about others AND succeed!
Take the time to show people
you care. Listen to them. Empathize with them. Love them. Now, I don't mean
that you have to go around hugging everyone - that probably wouldn't fly in
corporate America anyway - but we can take some time to step back from business
and be human! And I have found that when we do so, our business succeeds as
well!
5. Give Others Your Passion.
There is nothing this world
needs more than passionate people. And people need passionate people. Living in
this day and age can be tiring. The hustle and bustle of it all can wear you
down and tire you out. Give your passion to others and fire them up.
Don't just be humdrum - be
excited. Give people all the energy you can muster up. And you will find that
energy reciprocal. They will get energized and passionate. This in turn will
fire you up more when you are already charged and get you going altogether when
you don't feel like moving at all!
6 Give Others Your Experience.
We all have areas that we
excel in and they are usually areas that we have experience in. One of the
things we can do to make our lives more meaningful and be of utmost help to
others is to show them the way through the experiences we have.
Sometimes it will be what
they should do: Shortcuts to take, people to meet etc. Sometimes it will be
what they should not do: Shortcuts not to take and people toasty away from!
Whatever it is, we can be of service to others by giving them our experience
and ultimately it will make us all better!
7. Give Others Your Help.
All in all, what we want to
do is to help others. Zig Ziglar says that if we will "help others get
what they want, we will in turn get what we want." If we want to be
successful, we should consider ourselves servants of other people. What can we
do to help them and make them better? This is the true path to greatness and
success, not only in business but in life!
If you want to live the life
you have always dreamed of ask yourself if you:
Give Others Your Honesty
Give Others Your Respect.
Give Others Your Vulnerability.
Give Others Your Care.
Give Others Your Passion.
Give Others Your Experience.
Give Others Your Help.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Chris Widener is widely
recognized as one of the top speakers in the world today. He has spoken all
over the world in places like Germany, Spain, Russia, China, Egypt, Singapore,
Australia and of course, all over the United States and Canada. To get more
information about Chris, visit his website at http://www.ChrisWidener.com